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Tips for talking to children about cancer

“How do I tell my 10-year-old daughter that I have cancer?”

“What do I say to my 12-year-old grandchild when my hair begins to fall out?”Parents talking to kids about cancer

“How much should I tell my 7-year-old son about why I see the doctor so often?”

These are just a few questions adults have about addressing the subject of cancer with the special children in their lives.

Many resources are available to help parents, grandparents and other adults explain a cancer diagnosis to children.

Follow these tips for talking to children about cancer:

  • Prepare what you are going to say in advance.
  • Talk honestly with children about cancer. It will help them feel safe.
  • Consider your child’s age, and use age-appropriate language.
  • Assure children that they did not cause the cancer.
  • Reassure children that they cannot catch it. Cancer is not contagious like a “cold.”

Finally, tell them that they can help you through this journey. Examples of ways they can help include assisting with small chores around the house, drawing you a picture or giving you a hug.

Enlist help from others

Support groups and other programs  may offer young family members a place to channel emotions and share concerns with other children of similar age who are experiencing a loved one’s cancer diagnosis.

CLIMB® (Children’s Lives Include Moments of Bravery), is a six-week program that gives emotional support to kids who have a parent or other loved one with a cancer diagnosis.

CHAT (Cancer Help for Any Teen) is a program open to any teenager who has a family member or friend facing cancer.

Books and other tools also are available to help. Consider reading “When a Parent Has Cancer: A Guide to Caring for Your Children,” by Wendy Schlessel Harpham, M.D. Additional online resources include:

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