The uncertainty surrounding Novel Coronavirus (COVID-19) has upended normal routines. It can be stressful and scary for young children, teens and adults.
“Most children have probably already heard about the virus or have seen people wearing facemasks, so it is important to make sure that we help them understand what is going on,” said Heidi Giese, Child Life & Expressive Therapies manager at Marshfield Children’s Hospital. “Not talking about something can actually make kids worry more.”
You can’t control what’s going on, but you can encourage questions to minimize the negative impact and help your children understand COVID-19.
First, find out what they know
Clarify misinformation or misunderstandings with factual information. This will decrease the stress and anxiety children may be feeling from what they are hearing from their friends or on the news. Offer comfort and honesty. Not being able to go to school, work and other places is temporary. Focus on what you and your family are doing to stay safe.
Offer age appropriate information
Don’t volunteer too much information, as it may be too overwhelming. Younger children fantasize about the unknown. Talk about their feelings and validate these. Loneliness boredom, fear, anxiety, stress and panic are normal reactions to stressful situations.
Help children express their feelings
Offer creative opportunities and ask open ended questions to help encourage them to express their emotions.
Teens can write in a journal or be creative with art. Their peer group is important, so allow time with friends through online gaming, participate in physical activity while maintaining social distancing, and have conversations or social interactions using technology.
Provide children expressive activities while playing. They can draw, read books about feelings, sculpt with clay or playdough. Younger children can use imaginative play with dolls or figurines, houses, cars. Find a safe way for kids to act out frustrations. Make cookies and let them pound the dough. Make a worry doll and have your child feed the doll their worries before bed.
Giese recommends the following resources for children:
- Animal mask coloring page download – courtesy of Child Life Specialists list serve
- My Name is Coronavirius
- I have a question about Coronavirius
Help children feel in control
Make time do things at home that have helped during other stressful situations. Stick to a routine while you are at home and make a plan for each day. Offer activities for your child to participate in. Give your children choices to make them feel empowered and more confident.
Keep the conversation going as the situation changes and practice patience. You are your child’s role model. How you handle the stress of the situation will impact how they manage their worries and fears.
“You want to make sure as a parent that you are not feeling anxious when you talk to them,” Giese said. “Practice some relaxation techniques, use mindfulness exercises to help decrease your stress so you can support your child as best as possible”